If you are dealing with the effects of a spouse or partner’s infidelity, sex or pornography addiction, you’re likely feeling isolated or alone. You may be struggling with a number of feelings you don’t understand—intense anger, depression, fear, a sense of instability, or all of these. On the other hand, you may simply feel numb and emotionally disconnected. These are all normal and understandable reactions to the situation you’re facing.

betrayal traumaThe reaction to betrayal takes a very clear path. You will almost certainly find yourself obsessing about your partner’s behavior, or constantly checking his or her phone, email accounts, or financial records. For your part, you will likely find yourself calling your self-esteem into questions, or you are “numbing out” more than usual. Your world has been shattered, you feel broken, and, you probably feel you are the only one reacting this way, but you are not alone.

Recent studies have shown that more than 40% of married women have spouses that are unfaithful…that’s over 30 million women!

And with the increasing accessibility of pornography and online sexual encounters that number is rising daily. If you have tried traditional counseling already you may have been told that you are part of the problem, that you are co-dependent, or that you need to just forgive and “get over it.” These well meaning advisors don’t have the specialized training you need to understand and heal the problem.

Specialists now understand that many partners that experience betrayal manifest actual symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). This can include intrusive memories or flashbacks, avoidance of people or situations that can feel “triggering”, negative mood and negative thoughts about self and others, and hyper-arousal in the body. These symptoms can persist for years, even if your spouse is completely faithful.

With the increasing accessibility of pornography and online sexual encounters the number of unfaithful spouses is rising daily. If you have tried traditional counseling already, you may have been told you’re part of the problem, that you are co-dependent, or that you need to just forgive and “get over it.” These well-meaning advisors don’t have the specialized training you need to understand and heal the problem.

Specialists now understand that many partners who experience betrayal manifest symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). This can include intrusive memories, flashbacks, avoidance of people or situations that can feel “triggering”, negative mood and negative thoughts about self and others, and intense bouts of anxiety or panic. Unaddressed, these symptoms can potentially persist for years, even if your spouse remains faithful.

Our specialized therapists understand your experience and are certified in the treatment of betrayal trauma. They use specialized techniques, such as EMDR, to treat the symptoms of trauma. We honor those who have experienced betrayal, and know you can find healing and wholeness again, having witnessed others gain a heightened level of self-awareness and functioning than they had previously.

Partners Groups

Women need other women to heal, and often the secrecy and shame of infidelity and sexual addiction keep you isolated and alone. To combat this, we offer therapy groups for partners dealing with the effects of infidelity or sex/porn addiction.

For more information about our groups email info@thriverelationalrecovery.com